THIS! THIS! THIS!

This. This is what I do, this is how I teach, practicing these things makes everything else gravy. And if you want a more thorough read along these lines, I highly recommend: NurtureShock by Po Bronson, Ashley Merryman.

I highly recommend this article on how to raise happy kids.

 http://time.com/35496/how-to-raise-happy-kids-10-steps-backed-by-science/